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Rape is Rape - MAE

Where do I start from? First, I will like to be upbeat about my stance on issues of rape and any related issue;.and any kind of abuse regardless of the gender(even though I hate, and try to avoid any discuss on gender, lest I be branded a feminist in this male-chuavinistic sphere). 

That being made clear, let me jump right into what I have on this piece. I was perplexed as to what exactly to write about, needed to keep my promise to my OAP, and if you do not know what that abbreviation stands for in this 21st century, I will say, "Welcome to mother earth and, this is this 21st century after the death of the most popular figure in recorded history, Jesus Christ." 

Yes! Back to my story, so, I was on an official visit of my Facebook timeline and suddenly I stumbled on a post that talks about the controversial topic of "rape". The story was not so much about the rape incident, and I know most of you unfortunately are not novices to such. The catch for me in the story was the reactions that tray the incident, I will beg you to spear a fraction of a moment for me to rehash part of the story.

The story teller is a "she", she narrated how she went to visit her aunt in Ikota, somewhere in Lagos Island, and while there this day at the back of her aunt's window, two women were discussing a rape incident that happened the previous day; a girl was raped and stabbed by her boyfriend, whom she refused sex. The issue was that, the victim was said to have been living off the guy without given in to his sexual advances until this unfortunate day for her. At this point, one of the women was vehemently in support of the treatment meted out to the victim saying the young lady deserved what she got. 

This question was asked, by the narrator and I also ask, "on what bases is rape justifiable?" 
You see, I also took out time to read through the comments of people that responded to that story on Facebook and then it dawned on me that as Nigerians we seem to be either just cruel and callous, or still very unenlightened.
I gleaned from that post the fact that most Nigerians have and are not doing anything or not enough to combat this evil plague that have bedeviled our continent and by extension the human race for centuries.
The African situation is most unfortunate because the girl child who grows into a woman most times is left vulnerable by the very society that is supposed to be her cover on such issues on the premise of our cultural values and norms or our traditional beliefs about the "weaker sex". It is mind boggling that, though we see and acknowledge that they are weaker vessels, we do nothing to help protect these vessels. 

Another question I want to ask at this point is, was tradition created for man or the man for the tradition? Do not be in a haste to tell me your answer, keep it to yourself and examine your life and ask yourself that question and digest the answer for your own benefit, because the truth is you and I have done next to nothing with rape cases that we know of in our locality or even in our very homes. Let me help you with your two major excuses, "It is not my business because it is not anyone close to me.", and , " What happened is a taboo that should not be heard, if not, the victim will become a prey to stigmatization." Now that I have excused you, rather than looking for other excuses to give, you can channel that effort in looking for how you will be of help to bringing this evil to an end in your sphere. 
I'm bringing it to a close, the story earlier narrated ended on this note; a young lady while listening to the two women discussing the incident, asked the woman, who seemed to be tenacious in her support of what happened, in Nigerian pidgin English, "Mama Jamal, if na your pikin them do like that na wetin you go talk be that?" (Mama Jamal, will that be your reaction or stance if it was your daughter caught in this web?) And of course, you can guess what followed.

As ironic as Mama Jamal's reaction is, that is how most of us will react when the table is turned on us.
Egbere fa!!! (A word is enough for the wise)

Meshack is a teacher of the Word, a Life Coach, a born Motivator(A Motivational Speaker), an Administrator. He is passionate to see his generation take its rightful place in history, and also passionate on discoveries: people, cultures, cuisines and nature.
You can catch him constructively arguing sometimes but he is largely introverted.

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